Stop playing the victim game
POSTED IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT"Whatever our fate is and whatever difficulties we have to go through, we mustn’t ever consider ourselves as victims. Everything in the universe is filled with purpose. Only with this attitude we can move forward." ~Adrian Predrag Kezele
One of the most popular roles people choose to play in their lives nowadays is the victim role. Persons prone to victim mentality constantly consider themselves helpless and ruled by circumstances, events, other people and unknown forces. They tend to blame others for situations, events, their own behaviour and feelings. They sigh and moan and expect others to jump in and rescue them. In addition to these, highlighted patterns of these people are negative view of others, focus on what they don't have and cannot do, self-pity, selfishness, passive aggression, the belief that other people are happier, healthier, more successful, feeling that life is unfair to them and that they always get the short end of the stick....
Who is to blame? Everybody but me. Convinced they always get the rotten deal from life, often we hear them say: "I can’t do this", "I am forced to", "Others have better conditions"; "I am unlucky", "Life is cruel" etc. Shackled by their beliefs that they don't have any choice and that other people seem to have more luck in life, they often tend to manipulate others in order to reach some personal benefit in any area of life. Avoiding and rejecting responsibility is their trademark.
To become a victim of our own life is easy! Indeed, we easily embrace the world in which we see ourselves as helpless victim to whom life just happens without the possibility to change something.
VICTIM MENTALITY AND ITS IMPACT OF YOUR LIFE
To decide to become a victim is to decide to hand over the responsibility, power and art of life we've been given to something that at a certain point we declare larger than ourselves. It is often easier just to go with the flow, but the only benefit from this kind of behaviour is a short-term satisfaction from other people's pity, self-pity and achieving empathy by exaggerating our own suffering. You have already learned that both are an illusion, right? However, many are willing to go down that road, and mostly will all have a very good excuses for it. Well, to have a good excuse for themselves and others does not implicate having a good life, which is what all of us want in the end – to have a good and fulfilling life.
If you are the one who is living a victim role, you should know that your subconscious has created a pattern to impute such behaviour which is sabotaging you to actively live and create your own life. People with the victim behaviour have a long-established pattern that shifts too much of their focus on external factors and continuously blame the environment for their own problems and feelings. By shifting the focus to external circumstances happiness always seems out of reach, because you cannot always control something caused by external circumstances.
"Definition of a victim: a person to whom life happens." ~Peter McWilliams
For the victimized person there is characteristic pattern of repetition of negative experiences on a personal, professional and emotional level. All these negative experiences are almost always accompanied by "justifiable" emotions of rage, sadness and anger directed towards those who have been "unjust" to them, which leads to accumulation of a mental and emotional charge. Emotions themselves are not bad, but the way we handle them is. We tend to suppress and dispose emotional baggage, which enhances its charge even more, forcing us to compulsive reactions. By accumulating the charge within us we prevent ourselves from any progress and we are headed towards the prison which we have created for ourselves.
All that material is being stored in our subconscious mind and it is feeding and keeping alive our negative beliefs and fears. Over time people really begin to believe that they don't have much impact on their own future. This leads to frustration, chronic dissatisfaction and poor relations with others and with oneself. Overloaded and pressurized subconscious mind then creates situations in which we see ourselves as an object over whom an action happens and we spontaneously accept it by shifting the blame, repeatedly attracting same situations and people who will hurt us, which is how we just bury ourselves deeper into the identity of the victim.
We tend to blame others without even suspecting that our finger is pointing in the wrong direction. Buried deep-rooted fears, patterns, beliefs, bad experiences and negative emotions lead us in the direction in which we subconsciously see ourselves as victims and we identify ourselves according to other people’s definitions of ourselves. Best way to make sure that we won’t have repetition of these emotions is to raise awareness and to release feelings of guilt, anger and hurt.
HOW TO BREAK OUT OF THE VICTIM ROLE?
You can look at life as it was a theatre with a stage that is yours. You are the main character, and all others who you choose to be in your life have the roles that you've given them. Yes, that’s right; you are the person responsible for choosing to live the life you live. Every day we choose who will we be and how will we deal with the situations that surround us. Who are you, what kind of role you chose for yourself and others, and why? A deep understanding of these issues takes you directly to the path of personal growth and expansion of consciousness.
How to get out of the role of the victim? Ask yourself the following questions:
• What kind of information is this situation giving about me? (problems as information)
• How do I feel about the situation? (Identification of content that is creating the problem)
• What can I do to change my situation? (Taking the active role)
• What can I do to change my emotion? (Our emotions - our responsibility)
• Where does my emotion come from? (Recognition of chain contents)
• How have I contributed to this kind of development? (Accountability)
Remember, the problem is never in a situation, but in our reactions to it.
We remain in a vicious circle until we decide to go deeper into ourselves and understand why we succumb to compulsive and automatic behaviours. In a man there are parts that are difficult to reach just by analysing and consciously overviewing the problem. None of us were taught how to resolve inner conflicts and how to become aware of the unconscious, but today we have at hand the revolutionary and practical methods of Spiritual Technology, which allows us to indicate the core of the problem and gives us back the control over ourselves within minutes.
For any kind of progress we need to be prepared to put our masks down and face our own mirror, because we are the ones who need to change.
RESTORE YOUR POWER
Until you become aware of your own strength others will manage your life. The only way to reveal your true strength and power is to take responsibility for everything that occurs in your life. Freedom to be whatever you want to be and all you can be lies in taking the responsibility. You are the creator of your life. Your place on the throne of life is waiting for you!
Isn’t it nice to be the owner of your own life? It means a safe future which requires improving yourself. Investing in yourself is the most profitable investment ever, investment in which you always come out as a winner. Self pity will get you nowhere. It's time to wake up and take responsibility!
From this day on, you decide. Restore your power!
"To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities!" ~Bruce Lee
